This Memorial Day, let’s talk about the women who gave everything.
On Memorial Day, we line the streets. We hang the flags. We say the words.
“Thank you for your service.”
And we mean it. At least, we think we do.
But here’s what we’re not saying.
Women veterans have served in every war this country has fought. From the Revolutionary War to Iraq and Afghanistan. You bled on the same ground. You carried the same weight. You came home — and this country didn’t know what to do with you.
On the one day we set aside to honor the fallen and the brave — most people don’t even picture a woman. That is not accidental. That is a pattern.
The image of a veteran in this country is male. It has always been male. The VA was built for men. The statues are mostly men. The stories we tell are mostly men.
You raised your hand anyway.
You signed on the dotted line. You said you would give your life for this country. You meant it. You did it.
Some of you didn’t come home.
And those of you who did? You came home to employers who didn’t recognize your service. Communities that looked right past you. A system that was never built to hold you.
We see you.
Invisible Warriors is built by women, for women, with the understanding that belonging is not soft. It is everything. We believe that peer connection — women helping women — is one of the most powerful forces in the world. Not a program. Not a checklist. A community that knows your name before you finish your sentence.
You don’t need saving. You need what you earned.
Respect. Honor. A seat at the table that’s been at the head of this country’s defense since the beginning.
Memorial Day is not just for the men. It never was.
So this year, when you hang your flag and say your words — look a little further. Learn a name you don’t know. Support an organization fighting for women who served. Write a check. Show up.
Because “thanks for your service” is the beginning. Not the end.
It’s time we showed our gratitude with something deeper than words.
Because you don’t have to do it alone — we are here with you.
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The world would have so much more understanding and empathy if we all were a bit more open about our stories and how they have helped shape our journey and worldview. Let’s jump in with a fun one: Have any recent moments made you laugh or feel proud? From September 25–28, Grand Oak Retreat in Scottsboro, AL, hosted the first of what Invisible Warriors hopes will be many retreats for women veterans. This was a safe space where women who’ve served our country could simply breathe, connect, and be heard.
For many attendees, the toll of military life lingers as Post-Traumatic Stress (PTS) and Military Sexual Trauma (MST). The Department of Veterans Affairs notes that MST affects nearly 1 in 3 women veterans, and that women are twice as likely as men to develop PTS. Numbers like these aren’t abstract; they’re people, strong, brave people who deserve community, care, and a real shot at healing.
What I found most powerful about this weekend wasn’t the activities (though they were meaningful): it was the quiet moments when someone spoke honestly about her darkest days, and the group responded with listening, affirmation, and practical steps forward. As an Invisible Warriors spokesperson put it, “Isolation makes trauma worse. These retreats remind women veterans that they are not alone, that healing happens in community.”
A few moments that stayed with me:
One veteran, who had been red-flagged for suicide attempts five times, shared that she no longer feels the urge to harm herself. “Now I know there are others who care, who will show up if I call. I’m not alone anymore,” she said—tears and hope in the same breath.
Another attendee found the courage to pursue stability by filing for disability benefits. With peer encouragement, she completed her intent-to-file paperwork before the weekend ended, taking a concrete step toward the support she earned through service.
Can you briefly introduce yourself and share what makes you or your brand unique? Drawing from her own experiences and educational background—including a Master’s in Counseling and a Ph.D. (ABD) in Sociology from Western Michigan University—Nancy works with women veterans and others facing invisible disabilities like PTSD and MST. As an International #1 bestselling author, certified Peer Support Specialist, and Chaplain, she founded Invisible Warriors to provide resources, training, and support that help military women recognize their worth and potential. Nancy continues to expand her skills as a Mental Health Coach, staying committed to breaking cycles of loss and empowering others through her work. You can reach her at Nancy@InvisibleWarriors.org.
Okay, so here’s a deep one: What’s a moment that really shaped how you see the world? Watching the vast number of women veterans who have given so much of themselves and their lives to support our country, yet seeing them dismissed, undervalued, and treated as less worthy than their male counterparts—that fundamentally changed how I see the world. These women served with the same dedication and sacrifice, but their struggles, especially with invisible wounds like PTS and MST, are often overlooked or minimized. Witnessing that disparity opened my eyes to how much work needs to be done to ensure women veterans receive the recognition, support, and care they’ve earned. It’s what drives everything I do with Invisible Warriors—making sure these women know they matter and that their service counts just as much as anyone else’s.
Was there ever a time you almost gave up? Almost daily, honestly. Fighting against the unjust actions around us, the lack of support from society, and even from those who should care most about these women—it wears on you. There are moments when it feels like you’re pushing against an impossible weight. But then something happens that reminds me God is watching. A breakthrough, a connection, someone’s life changing—these moments show me there’s still hope, still support, and that the world is still fundamentally a good place. Those reminders keep me going, even on the hardest days.
Sure, so let’s go deeper into your values and how you think. Is the public version of you the real you? Absolutely. What you see is what you get. I don’t have the energy to pretend to be someone I’m not—this work is too important and too personal for that. My passion for supporting women veterans comes directly from my own experiences and what I’ve witnessed. The struggles, the frustrations, even the moments of doubt I share publicly—they’re all real. I believe authenticity is essential in this work because the women I serve need to know I truly understand, that I’ve been in the trenches too. So yes, the public Nancy is the real Nancy—flawed, determined, and completely committed to this mission.
Okay, so before we go, let’s tackle one more area. Are you doing what you were born to do—or what you were told to do? I’m doing what I was born to do. This wasn’t the path anyone laid out for me or told me to follow—it found me through my own experiences and the injustices I couldn’t ignore. When you witness women who’ve sacrificed so much being dismissed and undervalued, you can’t just look away. This work chose me as much as I chose it. Everything in my life—my education, my struggles, my faith—has led me here. Supporting women veterans and those with invisible disabilities isn’t just a job or a calling someone handed me; it’s woven into who I am. I finally feel like I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be, doing exactly what I’m meant to do.
Invisible Warriors Connects Veterans to Crucial Services
Connecting veterans to crucial services was the point of the recent vendor expo held by Invisible Warriors in Huntsville, AL. Despite vendor shortfall, North Alabama organizations rally to make sure veterans know about the many organizations that exist to support them. Female veterans’ advocacy group “Invisible Warriors” hosted a community resource expo, open to all veterans, amid what organizers are calling “dwindling support for veterans.”
Invisible Warriors wants you to know that we see you and we honor you for your service. Find support for women in the military, both active duty and veterans. Connecting veterans to the crucial services you need and resources and organizations that can help you to thrive are a core part of the mission of Invisible Warriors.
If you are an organization serving military women, please connect with us. We are building a resource and service network and would like to talk with you about promoting your organization. Contact us HERE to discuss how we can work together.
Watch the news report from Alabama Fox 54 on Invisible Warriors HERE.
Rally to connect veterans to crucial services
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You are warmly invited to join our quarterly event, Come to the Table, on Wednesday, April 16, 2025, at 12:00 ET/11:00 CT. All women are welcome to attend this live event.
Special guests present on a topic of interest followed by related questions and discussions. Our aim is provide a sense of not being alone. At Come to the Table, we talk about all things life, but in a kind and uplifting way – never moaning or groaning.
The Power of Peer Support and Resources
This month we have as our special guest, Dr. Pam Arnell, President/CEO of 22Zero, a nonprofit peer-to-peer program to heal emotional and mental scars using Trauma Resiliency Protocol and Emotional Management Process. Learn more here: https://22zero.org/
Dr. Arnell was appointed President/CEO of 22Zero on February 27, 2025, after two impactful years as Executive Director. Under her leadership, 22Zero has become a vital resource for women veterans grappling with Post-Traumatic Stress (PTS) and Military Sexual Trauma (MST).
With a strong foundation in research, Dr. Arnell has cultivated partnerships, notably with Arizona State University, leading to the publication of one study in 2024 and two more currently under peer review, including her co-authored work. In 2025, she will contribute to an additional study, further validating evidence-based practices at 22Zero.
Dr. Arnell has launched the 22Zero Ambassador program and the “Heroes Untold Stories” initiative, both aimed at expanding 22Zero’s mission. Her role encompasses strategic vision, overseeing operations, and fostering relationships with stakeholders to ensure compliance and promote a culture of transparency and collaboration.
An active advocate for mental health and suicide prevention, Dr. Arnell chairs the Tennessee Suicide Prevention Network Committee and has completed various suicide prevention trainings. Her dedication extends beyond 22Zero, as she engages with community organizations and holds leadership roles in multiple local initiatives.
Through her commitment and expertise, Dr. Arnell continues to empower women veterans and drive meaningful change within the community.
Join Us!
Mark your calendars now, and on Wednesday, April 16, 2025, at 12:00 pm ET/11:00 am CT, click this Zoom link to join what is sure to be an insightful conversation!
Come to the Table with Dr. Pam Arnell
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